Marriage is a bonding of two people who vowed to love each other for the rest of their lives, that nothing can separate them even the hurting turbulence. Not capable to have children can be one of them. This is because the thought that a child is the main reason why we work hard and a family is not complete without children. But reality bites, not all of us are gifted with this talent, and it is the hurting truth we must face. If you are one of them, you might as well pause for a while and ponder the following:
No finger pointing. No matter who is the unlucky one, never put your blame. Acceptance is hard, but you must face reality. Nobody is perfect, and not capable of having a child is not a sin. If things would be the other way around, you would not want to be blame anyway. If you are the unlucky one, it would not help if you feel guilty and depressed. There are a lot of better things to do if you will just look around.
Accept the challenge. Leaving your spouse will mean that you are breaking your promise to love each other for better or worst. A child is not the only reason to be a marriage successful. This is the time to prove how much you love each other. Do not be afraid that no one will take care of you when you grow old. This is the obligation of your spouse, not your children.
Utilize other gifts. You may have hidden talents that you have not discovered yet, so find them. You may have other useful capabilities that you can share to the world that parents cannot acquire. The world needs someone like you, who have all the time to dedicate to help others. All of us have a unique purpose in this planet and just waiting to be cultivated.
Enjoy each other. If you will look at the brighter side of it, you will realize that you can enjoy each other for the rest of your lives. Not all couples have enough time for each other, especially if they have a lot of children. Imagine that you can do anything you want without worrying about other responsibilities. A quite home does not mean it has a lonely family. Enjoyment has different faces, and having children is just one of them.
Never give up. Call it a miracle or whatever you want, but there are gifts that are being sent a little bit late. But you never know, it will be just right on time. Pray hard, no matter what religion you belong. Faith can move mountains and you know that. If you will be impatient, you might be blaming yourself later for a wrong decision. For the record, there are a lot of couples who had children in their late years of marriage.
A quite home does not mean that it is always peaceful. Having peace of mind means you are happy in what you have, and accepting that there are things that are not meant for you.
